O Brother, O Brother

The #1 question people still ask is if Kai likes his little sister....Like? Naw. Kai is completely in love with Ruby June. He snuggles her, "babysits" her, tries to make her laugh, and holds her whenever he can. Kai is also very loud and I think that Ruby must get so tired of it. But, just when I am thinking that I feel so sorry for Ruby because her brother is just too loud or too in her face, she lets me know she doesn't agree. He might be yelling, but she is laughing at him and smiling and tracking his every move. She also is trying to move and is rolling and is desperately trying to sit up more on her own. I think it's because she wants to follow her big brother and see what trouble he is going to get in next!

P.S. Yes, that shirt is so cute-- Aunt Christy sent it to Ruby and it says, "Surrender the Booby."

Where does God live?

Kai had a lot of questions for me the other morning over breakfast. A little background: we have a blue, shiny, pretty paperweight (more like a sparkly globe) in the middle of our table that used to be my Nonny's. Just a few minutes after she died, I grabbed this paperweight and stuck it in my purse. I figured no one would notice. Well, Kai did and he has loved it. We move it from room to room often.

As we were eating, he asked me if God lived in the globe. Then, he went on to ask if God was a man or woman. Next, he asked if he could go and visit God and find out if God was a real person. I tried to answer the best I could...but, I wanted to tell him that these are the sort of questions that people have been trying to answer for ages. He looked at me completely perplexed when I told him that I thought God lived everywhere and that God is a man and a woman (say what, vern?). He asked if everyone thought the same way I did (No!)

Our conversation left me smiling since it has been fun the past year or so having conversations that actually mean something...Kai is a pretty amazing kid.

Quiz

So, can you guess who is who? (Kai or Ruby) Both are photos of their first smiles. It seems so obvious to me, but so many people have mentioned how similar they look. Shoot, after posting this, I realized one of the photos has pink. Darn pink-- a total giveaway. But, do you think they look similar?

3 months

Happy 3 months Ruby! You have grown so much. You love to smile and laugh. Plus, you "talk" constantly and love it when we talk back with you. If a stranger says hello to you at a store, you give them a huge grin and start jumping up and down in excitement.

You are almost 14 lbs. and are sometimes too tall for your 3-6 months clothes. You like to sleep at home in your crib (so different from your older brother who preferred our bed) and you are a rock star sleeper and sleep at night almost 8 or 9 hours (again, so different from Kai who didn't sleep this long of a stretch until he was 2 years old!). You are patient. You are happy. And, you love your big brother. You even like it when he hugs you a little too tight or wraps his body over you (with me saying, "Kai, give your sister a little space," over and over again).

You have just started to figure out the bottle, so for the first time you've been away from me for more than a little bit. Up until this point, you've come with me to work and we joke that you are the only 3 month old who has attended more than 7 weddings!

As you can tell from this photo, you love being with your Papi. You enjoy early morning runs with him in the stroller and being in a sling with him while he makes dinner.

I've started to work part-time on Tuesdays and Thursdays and your Nonny is caring for you now that she has retired (after 39 years of teaching!). You don't know it yet, but you have the best babysitter in the world.

Summer

Summer is Here! We kicked off the summer with an end-of-the-year Slip and Slide party. Here is Kai enjoying his most favorite perks of summer: popsicles and friends (his buddy Walter)Then, we headed to my 15 year college reunion in Grinnell, Iowa. It was a wonderful weekend: complete with friends, laughter, pizza, and hanging out and doing nothing! But, the bummer was how long it took us to get there. It's suppose to take 4 1/2 hours to drive to Grinnell, but took us over 8 hours each way. It seems Ruby June is not a fan of the car! Here are some photos at one of our many breaks: Kai is enjoying the tractor and I'm trying to calm Ms. Ruby down.

Finally, the "brothers" came to town! We went on a road trip last summer to Michigan to visit the Davis Family. After a week of excitement, Kai told me he had three new brothers. He continues to tell everyone that he has one sister (Ruby) and three brothers (Reese, Luke, and Baby Gabe). We had a picnic on Memorial Day to enjoy some good "family" time together!

Bailey

So, lucky us...we've had almost 40 days of help!! I tell you, this is the rock-star way to have a baby! We have felt so much love.

Bailey came and stayed with us for 10 days (Reba, who I wrote about earlier, is her sister and equally as incredible) and we had a wonderful visit with her. She helped me through two weddings (I have coordinated a wedding almost every weekend since Ruby has been born and I've had Ruby with me, along with a helper), folded laundry, made lunches, played with Kai, and cared for Ruby June. All of the help was incredible, but the real joy for me was getting to know Bailey better. She is 15 years old and such a wonderfully smart, loving, and strong woman. WE spent all week trying to convince her to move out here with us for the summer!

Happy (Ruby) June!

Genius

Kai woke up this morning (we slept in until 9 am-- unheard of for us!) and scurried down to the frig to see if we had any yogurt squeezers. These are his absolute favorites.

When he saw that I had picked them up from the co-op the night before, he said, "Mom, you're a genius!"

What a way to start the morning out! It doesn't get much better than that.

Picture Day

Well, Kai rarely smiles for the camera at home. So, we ventured off to a real photo studio to see what we could find. Here are some of the photos. Most of them didn't turn out the best...mainly because we couldn't convince Ruby June to smile and the photographer at Target was kind've a dud. Oh well-- these ones turned out great!

Slip and Slide

I'm a blog thief: Here is an entry from Andrea about Kai and Soren's fun! (www.randreafam.blogspot.com)

"This past week the weather was fantastic and called out for some water activity. We were honored to be able to break in the Slip 'n Slide that Soren gave Kai for his birthday last January. Kai dove right in while Soren cared more to stay on his two feet. Both had a blast. Thanks for sharing in the fun Kai!"

Seattle

Well, it's Day 2 of Joe's trip to Seattle. He has a conference to attend and plenty of friends and family to visit too. I am insanely envious and wish the whole family could have joined him. I'd love to shoe Miss Ruby J off to all of her aunts, uncles, cousins, and friends. Plus, Jasper was born not too long ago (Jen Costigan's son) and Ruby needs to meet her new buddy.

We were over 1/2 hour late to Kai's school, so that tells you a little bit about how it is going. And, Kai woke up last night and cried for nearly one hour for Joe and he told me today that he is "real mad that Papi left me here." But, thankfully we are getting loads of help and we hope Joe is having a blast (but, not too much fun that he is tired when he comes home!)

Happy, Happy Baby

Ruby June is such a happy baby. Some of you may remember that Mr. Kai wasn't the easiest of babies, so this has been such a wonderful surprise for Joe and I.

(Now, I am a bit worried I'm jinxing it by writing this. Please dear God of sleep don't let this be the case!)

The hugest difference is that Ruby June sleeps!! And, not always in my arms. She actually sleeps in her own little, cozy bed at times and for (gasp!) at least 6 hours straight at night. Kai did not sleep this long until he was 2 years old!

She also smiles, laughs, coos and melts our hearts daily (and doesn't cry like Kai did whenever he was awake!). She is just such a very, very good little gal. We truly feel very, very blessed.

Kai and his little sister

When people ask me how Kai is doing as a big brother, I say wonderfully! Now, this is the truth. He showers her with kisses, hugs, squeezes, and pats. He helps me do her diaper changes, grabs blankets for me, holds her, and shows her off to his pre-school pals with such pride.

The other day I heard him say to her in a whisper, "Ruby June, don't worry! I'll keep you safe."

And, I've heard him also say, "You're so beautiful."

Now, the other truth is that at times he wakes her up with all of these kisses. He also is trying to get my attention in bigger and better ways. Today, I couldn't find him and he had unlocked the porch door, gone into the car that was parked on the street (I must have left it unlocked) and was pretending to drive it like a "police car." I found him yesterday upstairs in the bathroom painting his entire body in make-up. Last week, he used the stamp pad and marked his entire face (and our bedroom carpet too!)

So, it has been more challenging around here. But, overall, I'd say it's not that bad.....I mean, I need funny stories to tell him when he is older, right?

Binka

Joe's mom just left after a great 3 week visit. We've never had her here for that long and we appreciated every minute of it.

I'm not sure how Ruby is going to burp without her-- she was the queen of getting those sneaky burps out. Or how Ruby will sleep in the afternoon now that she has gotten used to Binka's warm shoulder. I'm not sure how the rest of us are going to have as smooth days and how I'm going to manage these two crazy kids all at once.

We'll manage, but it sure was nice to spend some time with a wise pro. After all, she had 4 children under the age of three once upon a time. Wow-- that makes two seem like a breeze!

Happy 2 months Ruby June!

Sleep

Oh, sweet sleep. I forgot (ok, not really) how much sleep occupies your mind with a newborn. You obsess about how much sleep you are getting, how much sleep your newborn is getting, where she is sleeping, where you are sleeping, what habits you are creating and which ones you want to establish. It's exhausting-- both the sleep and thinking!

Joe and I have always agreed about one thing: we will not let our kids "cry it out."

Here is an article that summarizes some of the sleep and brain research:

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/education/8636950.stm

When Kai was just a little guy (maybe 1-2 months), I randomly picked up a book about sleep and it happened to be filled with research from Europe all about a newborn's brain. It stressed that the higher level of the stress hormone, cortisol, occurs when a baby is left to cry it out and this affects the baby's brain in a negative way. The BBC article mentions the research says this happens when a baby cries for more than 30 minutes. We have read in other studies that it could be after 15 minutes.

But, really, for us, what seals the deal is a great piece of advice that Jen Costigan gave us-- she said, "Parent during the night like you parent during the day." This makes perfect sense to us.

So, do our kids cry? You bet. Do they do it sometimes alone? Oh yeah. But, I guess we have decided to not let them do it for a long time and to give them comfort when their little bodies are in need. Of course, this looks different for a 3 year old than it does for a 30 day old.

So far, Ruby has been a pretty decent sleeper. Although, recently she only wants to sleep in our bed or in our arms. Right now, she is in her grandmother's arms and has been for most of the day (Thank you Susie!)

I am, of course, a bit worried about this. Honestly, we hope she will be a better sleeper than her brother. Kai didn't sleep through the night until he was 2. God, that was tough! We have a plan on ways in which we hope she can sleep better. We hope we've learned a bit in the past 3 years. We are patient and know that the "experts" agree that at 3 months you really need to have a good plan in place. But, we are working on one now too.

But, so far, our plan doesn't include crying on her own and this works for us. I know it doesn't work for everyone. In fact, I have many, many friends who swear that "crying it out" saved their marriages, made their lives more manageable, and created way better sleep habits for their kids. This makes sense to me too. Just not for our kids so far.

Stay tuned.....maybe it will change. Maybe not.

Kai's School

Kai with his guide, Gina, and of course, his baby sister who he was so proud to have with him.




We recently went to "Wonderful Welcoming Wednesday" at Kai's school (Sunny Hollow Montessori). Kai was excited to show all of us (Joe, Ruby, Reba, and I) his classroom and all of the important and fun work he has been doing.

We were so excited to go since Kai was thrilled to have us and recently getting Kai to school in the morning has been a bit tricky. Once he is out the door, he is happy to be going and then when I pick him up, he is all smiles and stories about what a great day he had.

But, when he wakes up-- man, it's tough. We often have tears and last week he said, "I wish Sunny Hollow would die and go to heaven so I wouldn't have to go there anymore." On that particular day, when I picked him up, he said, "I had the best day ever at school today Mama." So, yes, you can imagine the delicacy of the situation.

Here are some photos from a perfectly wonderful visit (no talk about hating school or heaven). He loves the "practical life" activities the best and also working on maps and bird identification. His teachers are wonderful and comment on what a great sense of humor he has, how sensitive and kind he is, and also how social. I might have mentioned it before, but his teacher told us that he is the most extroverted child in the classroom!

Blast from the Past

I'm finally trying to get caught up with some photos.....Here is Ruby at 2 weeks old.





Here is Ruby at 3 weeks old.

Eloise

We were at Eloise's baptism this past weekend (Kt's daughter who is Ruby's best friend) and enjoyed the celebration!

Kai had the congregation laughing! At one point, the minister was praying and just when she paused for a moment of silence, Kai said (quite loudly), "Who is this Jesus guy?" Now, remember, Kai's grandfather is a minister! He has been to church quite a bit, but we've never heard this comment before.

Then, when the minister walked Eloise down the center aisle letting the congregation get a look at the cutie, Kai said, "Is that Eloise's fairy godmother?"

Hee Hee-- I just love that boy.