Happy 2 months Ruby June!

Sleep

Oh, sweet sleep. I forgot (ok, not really) how much sleep occupies your mind with a newborn. You obsess about how much sleep you are getting, how much sleep your newborn is getting, where she is sleeping, where you are sleeping, what habits you are creating and which ones you want to establish. It's exhausting-- both the sleep and thinking!

Joe and I have always agreed about one thing: we will not let our kids "cry it out."

Here is an article that summarizes some of the sleep and brain research:

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/education/8636950.stm

When Kai was just a little guy (maybe 1-2 months), I randomly picked up a book about sleep and it happened to be filled with research from Europe all about a newborn's brain. It stressed that the higher level of the stress hormone, cortisol, occurs when a baby is left to cry it out and this affects the baby's brain in a negative way. The BBC article mentions the research says this happens when a baby cries for more than 30 minutes. We have read in other studies that it could be after 15 minutes.

But, really, for us, what seals the deal is a great piece of advice that Jen Costigan gave us-- she said, "Parent during the night like you parent during the day." This makes perfect sense to us.

So, do our kids cry? You bet. Do they do it sometimes alone? Oh yeah. But, I guess we have decided to not let them do it for a long time and to give them comfort when their little bodies are in need. Of course, this looks different for a 3 year old than it does for a 30 day old.

So far, Ruby has been a pretty decent sleeper. Although, recently she only wants to sleep in our bed or in our arms. Right now, she is in her grandmother's arms and has been for most of the day (Thank you Susie!)

I am, of course, a bit worried about this. Honestly, we hope she will be a better sleeper than her brother. Kai didn't sleep through the night until he was 2. God, that was tough! We have a plan on ways in which we hope she can sleep better. We hope we've learned a bit in the past 3 years. We are patient and know that the "experts" agree that at 3 months you really need to have a good plan in place. But, we are working on one now too.

But, so far, our plan doesn't include crying on her own and this works for us. I know it doesn't work for everyone. In fact, I have many, many friends who swear that "crying it out" saved their marriages, made their lives more manageable, and created way better sleep habits for their kids. This makes sense to me too. Just not for our kids so far.

Stay tuned.....maybe it will change. Maybe not.

Kai's School

Kai with his guide, Gina, and of course, his baby sister who he was so proud to have with him.




We recently went to "Wonderful Welcoming Wednesday" at Kai's school (Sunny Hollow Montessori). Kai was excited to show all of us (Joe, Ruby, Reba, and I) his classroom and all of the important and fun work he has been doing.

We were so excited to go since Kai was thrilled to have us and recently getting Kai to school in the morning has been a bit tricky. Once he is out the door, he is happy to be going and then when I pick him up, he is all smiles and stories about what a great day he had.

But, when he wakes up-- man, it's tough. We often have tears and last week he said, "I wish Sunny Hollow would die and go to heaven so I wouldn't have to go there anymore." On that particular day, when I picked him up, he said, "I had the best day ever at school today Mama." So, yes, you can imagine the delicacy of the situation.

Here are some photos from a perfectly wonderful visit (no talk about hating school or heaven). He loves the "practical life" activities the best and also working on maps and bird identification. His teachers are wonderful and comment on what a great sense of humor he has, how sensitive and kind he is, and also how social. I might have mentioned it before, but his teacher told us that he is the most extroverted child in the classroom!

Blast from the Past

I'm finally trying to get caught up with some photos.....Here is Ruby at 2 weeks old.





Here is Ruby at 3 weeks old.

Eloise

We were at Eloise's baptism this past weekend (Kt's daughter who is Ruby's best friend) and enjoyed the celebration!

Kai had the congregation laughing! At one point, the minister was praying and just when she paused for a moment of silence, Kai said (quite loudly), "Who is this Jesus guy?" Now, remember, Kai's grandfather is a minister! He has been to church quite a bit, but we've never heard this comment before.

Then, when the minister walked Eloise down the center aisle letting the congregation get a look at the cutie, Kai said, "Is that Eloise's fairy godmother?"

Hee Hee-- I just love that boy.

Pretty in Pink

Reba

We were so lucky to have Reba come and spend a whole week with us. Reba is 12 years old and the second oldest of Rosie's kids (Joe's twin sister). She was truly the greatest gift-- and the best mother's helper. I don't think there are many kids who are as fun, responsible, competent and energetic as Reba. Reba helped me tons with Ruby June (holding her, burping her, changing her diapers, rocking her etc.) and also with Kai (playing, playing, playing!!). Reba also made lunches, did the dishes, folded probably over 20 loads of washes, and swept the floor. I know-- seriously, how lucky are we???

We tried to make the week not all work and some play. Joe, Reba, and Kai made a couple of trips to get ice cream and explore some parks and waterfalls.

Reba and I also made a daring trip to the Mall of America (what 12 year old comes to Minneapolis and doesn't go to the MOA?) along with Ruby J. I can't say I was a good fashion consultant though to Reba-- at one point, I said, "You are asking me what is hip? Look at me!! " (Ok, picture me not showered, with a baby in a sling, breast milk and spit up all over my shirt, and pants that you could see the maternity band with my belly spilling over it) I just had to laugh!

First Smile

Week Three

Every night I think I will post more photos here on the blog and every night I am so exhausted that I collapse into bed (just to wake up a couple of hours later)...so, for now, I'll just quick give a little update.

Ruby turned three weeks today and she is simply the sweetest little baby. And, Kai is a great big brother, too. Tonight, Joe asked Kai to hold Ruby June while he went to the bathroom. I peeked in at Kai and Ruby to check on them and Kai was kissing Ruby so sweetly and saying how much he loved her and this was the best, he said: "Ruby, I will keep you safe."

Ahh.....it doesn't get much better than that!

Kai had Spring Break this past week and it was Joe's first week back to work, so it's been a long week, but thank God for family and friends! We made it through it just fine.

Ruby had her first visit to the ER though and she is continuing to have some problems. She isn't pooping which is a concern to the doctors, since she is still so little. She is going on Day 6 right now (after having gone 4 days before getting some help to poop in the ER), so it looks like we will need to get some tests done to see what is going on. We spent over 1 1/2 hours today at the Cranio-Sacral Therapist doing some bodywork with her to see if that helps out. It works like wonders for Kai for any health issue he is having, so we hope it will do the same now with Ruby.

Yes, it does feel like I am all about body functions and fluids lately-- breast milk, poop, pee, and spit up. I guess it's a sign of being a mom!

One Week Old

Ruby June

Just about a week ago, we had our Ruby June!

I was in labor a week ago today, Sunday, and she was born at 1:38 am in the early hours of Monday, March 15, 2010.

Here is what Joe wrote to a few family and friends after she was born:

"We got her now!
At long last, please welcome our little girl, Ruby June, to the world. She's simply beautiful and amazing, just like her mom.
She was born Sunny Side Up at 1:38 this morning, after about an hour of pushing (maybe less!). Not bad for being 9 days after the due date!
Ruby is 21.25 inches long, and weighed 8 lbs, 6 oz. Molly did an amazing job to bring this little one into the world safe, happy and healthy. There were no complications at all. So far, both are resting comfortably and bonding quickly. Ruby has taken to nursing like a duck to water, and she has even found her thumb to be satisfying. That may be important in a few weeks, if she can self-soothe and sleep contentedly.
We're excited for everyone to meet her in time, and she'll be home from the hospital tomorrow. Please stop by to visit and meet the little one sometime soon. Thanks for all the support and love through the last 9 months. We all appreciate each of you!
Joe, Molly, Kai and Ruby"

Happy Birthday Ruby June!!

41 weeks

It feels in so many ways that we are on the edge of the cliff with our toes on the edge and we are waiting to jump.....it just is that we don't know when we will be pushed!

Yes, it's 41 weeks and we are still waiting for this little girl to come. But, we feel patient still.

I am feeling wonderful (most of the time) and am not feeling super anxious and nervous. Our midwife (and dear friend) Julie assures us the babe is just fine. We have until Tuesday to do testing to make sure she is still fine and then we have until 42 weeks before the big "I" would have to happen (Induction).

But, I try to remind myself that this is a perfect time for me to let go of some of my "Type A" personality characteristics and just wait for her to come and not push it too much. I mean, really, what can we do?

I hope she is going to be laid-back like her dad (and therefore this would explain the whole late thing). I can't think of anything better for a second born child!

In the mean time, we have been enjoying spending time just the three of us (Joe, Kai, and I). We know our life is about to change for all of us. Kai has been the focus of our life and as many of you know, when three becomes four, well, everything changes!

Here is a little blast from the past from my family-- I was the second born (but certainly not the laid-back one) and our family is following in the birth order of my own family growing up. Kai will be the wonderful sensitive, protective big brother just like my brother was. A story that our family likes to share is that whenever someone would offer my brother something (like a cookie or a treat) he would say "yes" but ask if his little sister could have one first.

Joey and Kai are so similar already in many ways-- so, I hope he will take after his Uncle Joey. But, maybe Kai, don't blow your nose on your sister's shirt when you get older. Just a suggestion....

40 weeks

Kai: Mama, when do you think you will have the baby?

Me: I'm not sure. But, I think it will be soon. What do you think, Kai?

Kai: Probably in 40 minutes.

I love his positive thinking!

Walking

We are still waiting for the babe to come!

I've been walking a lot trying to get this show on the road-- although, I'm actually feeling wonderful and not super anxious quite yet.

But, here is a photo of Kai and my brother's dog, Osa. Kai just loves my brother and Osa. He asked me the other night, "Do you think that Osa really loves me?"

Uncle Joey, Kai, and Osa hung out on Friday night so my mom and I could really pick up the speed and walk along the river.

Then, I pretty much have been walking ever since...but, I don't feel like there is much action happening quite yet with the baby thinking of entering into the world.

My due date was on Friday, March 5th, so I still have some time...we will keep you updated.

Flash From the Past

Here is Kai at 4 days old--

We're so curious to see what our new little girl is going to look like. Will she look like Joe again? Have my curly hair? Resemble her brother?

Check back here often for updates!

4 more days

We had such a great weekend!

After dinner on Friday night with some new friends from Kai's school, then a great wedding for Joe's co-worker on Saturday night, followed by brunch out at a yummy restaurant with just the three of us (Joe, Kai, and I)-- well, it's no wonder I'm tired, happy, and ready to roll with this new baby.

Joe and I are still laughing about dancing at the wedding on Saturday night. It felt like we were either in 6th grade again or at a Bible College, since we were dancing so far a part from each other due to this big belly!

Eloise

I feel so lucky that Kt's little girl, Eloise, will only be 10 weeks older than our new little one. I feel like it's like an arranged marriage, except for it will be an arranged friendship that we know will include canoe trips, late night girl chats, chocolate sundaes, and moms who have known each other since we were 16 years old.

Here are some photos from lunch on Friday--

Love Bug

Sometimes, just out of the blue, Kai will say to me:

"I love you"

Or other times, it is, in the middle of dinner, while drinking his milk:

"I love you guys sooooooo much."

Or having fun with his Uncle Joey, or Nonny, or Pops and Nana Kit, he might say:

"You are the best."

What a complete sweetheart!

I have to remember this, during the times, when he spits (for some reason, he thinks this is a funny thing to do), or screams "poopyhead," or pretends his magic wand is really a gun that hurts mean people.

I know it's all normal...but, man, it can be challenging.

Slumber

As many of you know, both Joe and I are pretty flexible about sleeping arrangements with Kai. We love snuggling with him in his bed or in our bed and we also love that he chooses to sleep in his big bed on his own too.

We have been wondering, talking, and reading about sleep once again for a newborn. We have some ideas of changes we will make for our new little baby. The main thing is that we'd love it if she sleeps through the night before 2 years old!! But, we still are committed to not letting her "cry it out" and are wondering if we will be able to strike a good balance.

Hmm....we will keep you updated!!

Painting Part 2

Kai wanted in on the action!

Ouch!

I received a phone call at work on Friday morning from Kai's school saying he had tripped over a friend and landed on the radiator down in the gym!

We spent the afternoon at the hospital and 6 stitches later, he looks like a boxer who didn't win his match. But, the hospital experience was so much better than last year's experience (stitches in the same place) so we were pleasantly surprised. Kai was very brave and loved the two Popsicles and toddler vicodin that kept him relaxed and happy!

Henna

Here is the actual henna! We had so much fun-- I'm not sure if you can hear all of the laughing, but we stayed up until midnight laughing so hard we were crying.

But, they made my belly look beautiful!